I want to share an important and deeply personal part of my life — something that has shaped many of my decisions and something I’ve carried in silence for a long time.

Both my marriage certificate and my daughter’s birth certificate were never officially registered. They were created unofficially during a time when I felt immense pressure from family and society to hide my true self. A friend, who worked as a ward secretary, helped me with the documents to meet immediate needs — but they were never entered into the official system.

Now, my daughter needs her birth certificate to apply for her citizenship card. Unfortunately, the version we have cannot be used for any legal or official process. This situation has brought me to a place where I feel I must finally speak openly and honestly.

Many of my family members, including my daughter, already know this part of my truth: I am gay. I have lived much of my life in fear, compromise, and silence — especially within my marriage. I tried to meet others’ expectations, but in doing so, I lost pieces of myself. I no longer want to live this way.

I intend to help my daughter get her citizenship through her mother’s name, using the correct legal channels. But more than that, I hope to use this moment not only to explain the past but to move forward — openly, truthfully, and freely.

I know that some may struggle to understand this. But I hope my honesty will lead to greater compassion, not just for me but for others who may also be living quietly, afraid to be themselves.

Thank you for taking the time to read this. Your understanding and support mean more than words can express as I begin this new chapter in my life.

With respect and hope,
Kumar Timilsina