Marriage is not sacred. Marriage is not natural. Marriage is a patriarchal invention designed to control women’s bodies, police desire, and regulate inheritance. For centuries, it has been less about love and more about ownership. A man marries a woman and suddenly assumes she is his property—for life. Fidelity, then, is nothing but the branding iron of ownership.

The Lie of “Lifelong Fidelity”

The idea that one woman must remain faithful to one man until death is not romance—it is imprisonment. Men expect this loyalty regardless of their own mediocrity. They never ask: Why should anyone stay with me for life? Instead, they ask: Why is she leaving me? And society gives them the answer they want: Because she is characterless.

But the real answer is harsher: because she is tired of being reduced to property, of being locked into a monotonous cage, of being denied her humanity in the name of fidelity.

Fidelity as Patriarchal Surveillance

Fidelity has never been about love; it has always been about control. Men have been allowed their brothels, mistresses, and secret affairs while demanding women remain untouched, pure, loyal. Fidelity is a tool of patriarchal surveillance, ensuring that women’s sexuality serves only male lineage and legitimacy.

It is not surprising that marriage has historically been backed by religion and state—two institutions obsessed with regulating sexuality and inheritance. Fidelity is less about the heart and more about property rights: whose child is this, whose bloodline continues, whose wealth passes on.

Marriage Kills Desire

Marriage is designed to tame women’s desire, to make their passion predictable, to reduce attraction to routine. In the name of stability, it kills the very spark that makes us human. Desire is fluid, restless, and expansive—but marriage forces it into a coffin.

This is why so many marriages suffocate: they try to cage a fire that is meant to burn freely. The tragedy is not that people are unfaithful, but that they are expected to amputate their desires to appear “faithful.”

The Alternative: Love Without Chains

If love is real, it does not need the handcuffs of marriage. If fidelity is genuine, it does not require surveillance. If friendships is true, it thrives in freedom, not captivity.

We need to abandon the myth that marriage is the highest form of love. It is not. Love without ownership, desire without shame, intimacy without contracts—that is liberation.

Abolish the Cage

Let us say it clearly: marriage, as it exists today, is a patriarchal relic that should be dismantled. Fidelity should be chosen, not enforced. Desire should be explored, not punished. Women are not property. Men are not entitled to lifelong loyalty.

If marriage cannot evolve into a partnership of equals, free from the chains of ownership and control, then it deserves to be left behind—just like other outdated systems of oppression.